Future husbands and wives now choose each other without any sort of parental advice, just like in Western countries.
Men and women are now dressed in Western style, with a white dress for the bride and a classic black vest for the husband to be.
The traditional Vietnamese woman's clothing Ao Dai is now often being replaced by modern, western style attire.
These changes are very new, a few years only. This is what you will see in big cities, in the countryside however, not much has changed with regards to who is in charge and how things are done.
Process of proposing:
First, the man and his family will come to the woman's family's house to offer a glass of local alcohol made of rice to the parents of the woman. It is the traditional way of proposing in Vietnam.
Second, the bride's family will receive traditional gifts such as a TRAU and CAU. These are little trees which are believed to bring good luck and prosperity in the new couple's life. Additionally, earrings, necklace, bracelets and of course the wedding ring are expected by the bride.
Women of all countries love everything that shines!!
In catholic families, all of them will go to the church, where the two suspects will promise to each other until death separates them.
Finally, both families go to the restaurant to celebrate with relatives and friends. Pictures and video recordings are extremely important in Asian culture. A significant part of the budget is dedicated to this effect.
After the wedding:
The wife is supposed to stay at the family house of the husband for a few years to help out. Later on the couple moves out of the family hous to integrate their own habitat.
From that day onwards, the Vietnamese woman's life is less restricted. She is allowed to work outside of the family environment and make decisions with her husband without consulting older members of the family.
Related search: Vietnam Wedding and Family Traditions, wedding Vietnam. Vietnam marriage. Getting married in Vietnam.
Seems tradition coexist with (normal) western ways of getting things done.
ReplyDeleteInteresting post, thanks for sharing this stuff that many who live in Vietnam as expat have no idea about, even if they've been in the country for a few years.
Keep up the good work,
Looking forward to reading your next articles.
Thanks for this post about Vietnam Wedding and Family Traditions.
ReplyDeleteGood post, i really like the angle, which is really objective.
More information is available at Wikipedia:
Vietnam Wedding and Family Traditions